When My Trauma Finally Spoke
Voices Behind the Silence - A SMACWellbeing Human-Angle Story
Today’s story is one of displacement, self-sabotage, faith, and healing. It belongs to a young woman who has found words for wounds many are still learning to name. She calls her reflection: “If My Trauma Could Speak.”
“When I was younger, I wasn’t balanced.”
“My family moved me around a lot. I never had a safe space I could call home. Everywhere they took me, I’d try to marinate there… but before long, it was, ‘Your stay here is done.’”
The instability shaped her understanding of home, safety, and belonging.
“It affected my whole view on relationships. The good side was that I learned to adapt. But the bad side? It placed a heavy emotional burden on me.”
This burden soon found language: self-sabotage.
The Quiet Damage of Abandonment
“Because of my fear of being left, I sabotaged friendships and relationships. I believed nothing would last—either I’d leave, or they would, or something would break.”
Her father’s absence became a defining thread in her story.
“He left when I was very young. I have no memory of a complete family. Just me and my mom. If the person meant to give me security could leave, then anyone could leave.”
Healing began with one truth: awareness.
“Being self-aware helped me realize I had a problem with self-sabotage.”
Finding God, Finding Ground
Her voice softened when she described where her healing truly began:
“How I got past it? God. Genuinely. He made me know He’s always been there.”
Through dreams, conviction, and spiritual people in her life, she found community and accountability.
“Even when I tried to push people away, I was held accountable. They told me the truth; this isn’t healthy, this isn’t right. You can’t keep pushing people out because of trauma.”
Her advice to others dealing with father’s wounds was gentle but firm:
“Forgive your dad. He’s living life for the first time too. You don’t know the full story. And you are your own person. You’re allowed to feel, but you cannot keep sabotaging your future because of your past.”
Healing Starts With Responsibility
“Trauma shouldn’t be permanent. You’re not meant to let it define you forever.”
She emphasized three anchors:
1. Find God: Not just religion—relationship. A personal connection that guides, mentors, and refines you.
2. Be Self-Aware: Self-awareness is the beginning of accountability. Healing cannot happen in blindness.
3. Treat Yourself Gently: “Be calm with yourself. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.”
Her message for anyone reading:
‘‘Focus on the future. One step forward is better than drowning in the past. If I could heal, you can too. Open yourself to healing. Seek the right support.”
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